Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Perception of memories

Every time I think I'm going to start blogging regularly, I get sidetracked. I have things to say, projects I want to complete. BUT...there it is that word that interrupts the best of plans.
My life is simply interruptible. I could be working on the great American novel, but I have to get dinner, feed the pets, run to the store, or worse...vacuum.
Well, I'm not likely to complete the great American novel anytime soon, because frankly, that's not my interest. But the stories all around me are. I want to tell my stories, my family's stories and your story. Everyone has a story. Experiences that are unique to you or your family. No one can have the exact same experiences as you...yes, even if you're a twin.
No one reacts the same, remembers the same, thinks the same. That's what makes family stories and personal history so fascinating. You may remember where you were for your first kiss, but maybe the person you kissed remembers it differently. You remember your grandmother also did something a certain way, whether it was cleaning, laundry or setting the table. Your siblings will remember it a different way, for just the way that they experienced it.
What was your mother's favorite color? her favorite dessert? her favorite book? You know because she told you. But maybe she told your siblings something different based on the circumstances that prompted the discussion.
You may love cheesecake and say so. But if you're eating fresh apple pie at a family picnic and say "I just love this dessert." Someone around you may think that's your favorite dessert.
It's perception and circumstance that create memories. You may want to remember that as you start your personal history recordings. Did you remember it right? or was it the way your sister remembered...maybe it's a combination of the memories. Ask questions of the family members you want to remember, ask for their perception of their experiences, and don't necessariy rely only on your recollections. Stories can be told and retold, and there is the problem...telling is a perceived form of the story depending on who is telling it. Get the facts, and....write them down...they'll be the same next time you look.